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TAMMY WYNETTE – “Stand By Your Man”

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#370, 3rd May 1975

I only have a surface-skimming knowledge of country music, but it’s pretty obvious what’s great about it: songs about grown-up situations and emotions, with clear, well-turned lyrics, whose singers often have gorgeous, expressive voices – what’s to dislike? But stereotypes stick to the genre – particularly at an ocean’s distance: sentiment, traditionalism, religiosity, a willingness to be trite or didactic. These are big hurdles for a lot of listeners, though none of them is as true, as often as the people who utterly dismiss country might imagine. None of them are even a deal-breaker for me – something I like about country is that I can disagree with what’s in a song at the same time as I enjoy it.

Country is a near-total absence from British charts now: in the 1970s, though, there was a clear market for it and the big hits did extremely well – especially if, as in this case, they had year to build up demand before an eventual release. I didn’t know, coming to write this entry, that “Stand By Your Man” wasn’t a 1975 hit, and knowing that Wynette and George Jones divorced in the mid-70s I’d heard bitterness in its tears, and its lyrics that essentially present men as helpless, defective children. My Dad, who loves the song, used to chuckle over Wynette’s multiple real-life marriages, understanding that the pleasure in country lies partly in how it briefly, artfully paints a life and situation in a few minutes. Whether the singer lived the song didn’t seem to be the point.

I may enjoy country but ultimately I don’t share its sensibilities: the lachrymose wobbles and almost-cracks in the vocal do feel over-the-top to me, and the record can’t quite win freshness back from crushing over-familiarity. But the sardonic, wounded intensity of Wynette’s performance is a keeper whether it’s your first time hearing it or your thousandth.



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    a logged out p^nk s lord sukråt wötsit on 20 Mar 2008 #

    haha i think i can guess his position! but yes…

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    Marcello Carlin on 20 Mar 2008 #

    I will not have carmodization in this jungle!

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    Lena on 20 Mar 2008 #

    Is the next song a ‘guilty pleasure’?

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    Marcello Carlin on 20 Mar 2008 #

    The song in question hasn’t yet been “rehabilitated” – Judge Dale has played it but profusely apologised for doing so, even though he shouldn’t have done – but I’m looking forward immensely to the 400 or so posts it will engender… ;-)

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    Waldo on 20 Mar 2008 #

    Dear God, one or two of you have really incurred the wrath of The Spoiler Bunny with recent comments. And let me tell you, The Spoiler Bunny does terrible things when he’s angry.

    Basically, you can’t keep your word. Keep your word…

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    intothefireuk on 21 Mar 2008 #

    Now here’s a thing – one minute I’m chewing over the bones of Aznovoice’s ‘She’ the next ….I’ve fallen off the radar only to reappear unannounced towards the arse end of a Tammy Wynette thread ! I’ve missed almost a year of chart entries along the way. I may have some catching up to do.

    So Wynette, well after 95 comments there really isn’t much to add is there ? Yes I have to admit Country music is a bit of a black hole for me, at least it has been until fairly recently when through the miracle of illegal downloading I have chanced upon a fair few compilations – even managing to delve into the archives to trace it’s history a little. That said Tammy’s song is pretty numbing fayre. The pedestrian pace of the verses with the standard country bolt-on twangy geetars & lap steel doesn’t get the song off to good start although, thankfully it does liven up somewhat in the chorus. Not sure I would have understood the sentiments as a teenager and neither do I really agree with them now – but then I’m just a man.

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    Chris Brown on 21 Mar 2008 #

    Possibly ironic digression: Snow Patrol did a cover version of ‘I Am An Astronaut’ for a Save The Children charity album.

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    Tom on 2 Apr 2008 #

    Managed to get the picture, mark etc in at last.

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    Billy Hicks on 11 Feb 2011 #

    A few years late here, but if Danny Baker’s correct that something wrong happens in music when you’re 26, I’m not looking forward to 2014. It’s going to need to make quite a shift though as I’m still mostly enjoying the stuff of today, even if the 80s and 90s are my first love.

    My guess – 2014 will be the peak of Simon Cowell mania, and the majority of number 1s will be his acts. That would definitely kill my chart-listening off.

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    Lazarus on 27 Mar 2011 #

    Re # 70 – it’s not quite her only number one, she’ll feature on another just a few months before her untimely demise, but I’ll say no more as I hear the gnashing of rodent teeth … as for the old Guilty Pleasures, the 70s one-hit wonders are the best aren’t they? If only the acts on that TV show had attempted Sky High, Howzat, Angie Baby, Rock Me Gently or even Afternoon Delight. And a bit of Gilbert would have been welcome.

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    hectorthebat on 11 Jul 2014 #

    Critic watch:

    1001 Songs You Must Hear Before You Die, and 10,001 You Must Download (2010)
    Blender (USA) – Standout Tracks from the 500 CDs You Must Own (2003)
    Bruce Pollock (USA) – The 7,500 Most Important Songs of 1944-2000 (2005)
    CMT (USA) – The 100 Greatest Songs of Country Music (2003) 1
    Dave Marsh (USA) – The 1001 Greatest Singles Ever Made (1989) 743
    Heartaches By the Number: Country Music’s 500 Greatest Singles (USA, 2003) 11
    NPR (USA) – The 300 Most Important American Records of the 20th Century (1999)
    National Recording Preservation Board (USA) – The National Recording Registry
    Pause & Play (USA) – Songs Inducted into a Time Capsule, One Track at Each Week
    Pitchfork (USA) – Top 200 Songs of the 60s (2006) 145
    RIAA and NEA (USA) – 365 Songs of the Century (2001) 48
    The Recording Academy Grammy Hall of Fame Albums and Songs (USA)
    Rock de Lux (Spain) – The Top 150 Songs from the 20th Century (1998) 144
    Toby Creswell (Australia) – 1001 Songs (2005)
    Giannis Petridis (Greece) – 2004 of the Best Songs of the Century (2003)

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    Inanimate Carbon God on 9 Mar 2015 #

    @99 You were wrong. And I’m eternally grateful.

    Although my advice to recent British chart toppers (especially the current bunny) is almost the exact reverse of this advice (from a Vice “Big Night Out” in the notorious Spanish resort of Magaluf):

    What’s odd about the food is that so much of it is clearly designed to provide maximum warmth and stodge on wet Wednesday evenings in the Midlands, and thus is entirely unsuitable for the Majorcan climate. What kind of a person thinks a Yorkshire pudding is just the ticket on a 30-degree evening in southern Europe? I appreciate there’s gonna be some degree of drinking on a night out in Magaluf, and some stomach lining will be required. But for fuck’s sake, have a paella.

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    Mark G on 10 Mar 2015 #

    #99, was going to say, Danny Baker’s idea was complete bobbins, and 1986 I’d say that music was beginning to get going again.

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    wichitalineman on 10 Mar 2015 #

    I was 26 in 1991 which was a pretty incredible year for music.

    I love Danny Baker but, lord, can’t agree on his musical taste. I wonder if he wasn’t allowed to play music (apart from instrumentals) on his BBC London Breakfast Show for a reason. That way we got Leroy Anderson’s Forgotten Dreams, a karaoke version of Kashmir, and the theme from Halloween. It was ace!

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    Weej on 12 Mar 2015 #

    Re 104, 103, etc, I think the fact that you’re here at all puts you in a minority here – for many people I know Danny Baker is correct, they have a cut-off point in their mid-20s or even earlier – and a glance at the cover of Q or Mojo will tend to confirm that this is pretty widespread. It’s this instinct rather than something as arbitrary as “rockism” that I see poptimism as defined in opposition to – and in case that sounds like an early 2000s thing, the struggle continues on the /lewronggeneration/ subreddit.
    As for Baker himself, don’t know much about what he listens to now, but I like what he did on Desert Island Discs.

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    enitharmon on 12 Mar 2015 #

    Danny Baker is just a name to me. I was 26 in 1980 and ISTR that as the beginning of quite a pop renaissance, with Blondie in their pomp and a lot of good stuff growing out of a punk movement that it’s no secret I found pretty dismal. But there you go. My theory of being 26 is that it’s the age at which you are most “grown-up”, after which you realise that being grown-up is just a myth your parents and teachers dinned into you!

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    lonepilgrim on 3 Nov 2019 #

    Country music didn’t feature large in my consciousness at this time and what I knew of it was via the occasional country tinged track that would pop up on OGWT and Alan Freeman’s Saturday Show on Radio 1. 1975 was peak Prog for me in terms of my own listening so for this to reach Number 1 hot on the heels of the Bay City Rollers only served to confirm my disdain for the charts. This still sounds like an artefact from some primitive society which you can appreciate for its craft and purity of purpose even if you can’t get on board with its belief system.
    Within a few years I was more open to Country via Dylan, Neil Young and the Grateful Dead although even now there are large areas of the genre of which I remain ignorant.

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    Gareth Parker on 2 Jun 2021 #

    Not keen on Tammy’s vocals. A 3/10 from me.

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